For someone to understand, I will have to start at the beginning.
Four months ago, I got into an argument with my sister where harsh words were spoken to me and in return I spoke harsh words back. It was not a particularly intelligent moment for me but when someone tells you that you're a worthless piece of shit, it goes without saying that there will be retaliation especially when their accusations are unjust.
At the time I was having quite some problems in getting employed, which doesn't excuse my actions or words, but it will explain my frustration in being called worthless. I was also living with my mom whom I thought would be a little more understanding to my feelings about being called worthless, but I was wrong. Instead of listening to what I had to say, she cut me off at every turn making it clear to me that she didn't care for my feelings on the matter. A week later after continually being called worthless under breath everyday of that week, I confront my mom about it without giving her the option to ignore me.
She didn't like what I had to say apparently because she told me that I had until that weekend to move out. This is the part where I don't understand because I was made out to be the villain.
The only thing I can think of is that my ex sister told her a complete lie and made it out to be that I intended to hurt her and her bastard child. So I guess I'm now an abusive person who will physically hurt people to get my way.
To solve that problem, I called my dad who had been trying to get me to move in with him for a while now.
It's been great, but I'm getting the feeling that his girlfriend is annoyed with me somehow. She's a good person and I like her way more than my dad‘s second wife, but she's been shutting me out for some reason. And when I ask her what the problem is, she isn't very forthcoming as in she completely ignores me. I don't get it but whatever that's not the issue here.
After four months of hardcore job searching with 2 years previous, I might be finally getting employed. I did everything that my potential employer requires of me before they officially hire me, but I need to get my tuberculosis test read.
I asked my dad‘s girlfriend if she could give me a ride seeing as I haven't taken my road test yet, but she told me she couldn't, which is fine. I ask a friend of the family, and he says he can do it. Turns out though that he expects to be compensated, which is understandable, but I am unable to do it at this time and he's unwilling to wait.
We start talking after I tell him that my dad is going to give me the ride, but it turns unpleasant for no apparent reason.
We were having a nice conversation about a business/youth and adult program I want to open up when I impersonated my brothers voice about him saying that I had no chance of getting a loan because I haven't been employed for 2 years. I said that's a load of bull because I would rather take a grant instead of owing someone because I wanted to help the community.
He goes off telling me that need to get over myself and that he won't have any part of my apparent feud and than proceeds to tell me that I can shove my feud up somewhere, but I hang up on him since I don't need to hear nor deserve his hostility for simply stating that my brother was wrong.
My question is: what feud? Our conversation had nothing to do with the argument I had with my ex sister, so he completely spoke out of turn.
But I don't know what angers and hurts me more. The fact that he used that or the fact that he knows about the argument when it's a private matter and has nothing to do with him. Clearly someone has been whispering in his ear, and it is very clear on which side they were campaigning for him to state it like that.
It shouldn't be about sides. In fact, the only persons involved is myself and my ex sister. And that should be the end of that.
Now I'm sitting in my room trying to figure out if I should call my brother and mom to have them understand that what I stated wasn't a slight towards him, but my disagreement with his opinion. Or I can just let it fester since they already think the worst of me.
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